What is Nonviolent Communication?

Nonviolent Communication^sm (NVC), also known as Compassionate Communication, is a way of speaking that facilitates the flow of communication needed to exchange information and resolve differences peacefully. It helps us identify our shared values and needs, encourages us to use language that increases goodwill, and avoid language that contributes to resentment or lowers self-esteem.

Nonviolent Communication (NVC) has been described as a road map out of conflict, as a language of compassion, as a tool for positive change and as a practice that resonates with the deepest principles of many world religions. NVC is based on a fundamental principle:



Dr. Marshall Rosenberg developed Nonviolent Communication throughout the past 35 years. It was first used to facilitate the de-segregation of schools in the southern states of the U.S. There are now more than 100 certified trainers worldwide, who, along with Dr. Rosenberg, contribute to global peace and social change by training in schools, prisons, health-care institutions, government agencies, corporations and communities.

Nonviolent Communication teaches us to:

Receive aggressive messages without taking them personally, giving in, or losing self esteem

Respond calmly and compassionately when faced with anger, defensiveness, and criticism

Effectively mediate conflict and resolve differences harmoniously

Build committed teams, classrooms, and task groups

Reduce violence in schools

Foster democratic values, tolerance, cooperation, and harmony

Create a safe and supportive atmosphere

Set boundaries and say "No" respectfully

Evaluate performance in ways that promote growth and learning

Nonviolent Communication, also known as Compassionate Communication, follows a process outlined in the NVC model. Using NVC brings the method to life. Here are some examples of NVC in Action.